Have you been watching Xfactor (UK) this year? If you have been watching you may have noticed that contestant Tamera Foster had been struggling with remembering her lyrics over the last couple of weeks.
If you watched Xfactor Saturday 30th Novembers, I was shown working with Tamera to help her tackle her nerves in preparation for her live performances that night.
After rumours in the press that Simon Cowell had instructed Tamera Foster to use Hypnosis to help her remember her lyrics, it was nice to be confirmed as Tamera Fosters Hypnotherapist on the show.
After being recommended to the producers of xfactor (I love it when clients recommend me, it’s such a honour and the highest praise they can give me), I was delighted to receive the call asking if I’d be interested in working with Tamera and invited to the contestant’s house in London to meet her and do some filming of us working together.
I work with a number of high profile clients, but due to the nature of the work, both my clients and their sessions, are strictly private and confidential. So when I get the opportunity to work with people in the media, it’s a great opportunity to showcase the benefits of utilising hypnotherapy and performance coaching.
Having never met, or spoken to Tamera I wasn’t sure how it would go, but she was a great girl a real pleasure to work with.
Once I met Tamera it was soon obvious to me that it wasn’t about the Lyrics, Tamera is a talented girl who is clearly very passionate about music.
Unfortunately she was starting to suffer with performance anxiety which was causing her to have a block about remembering her lyrics.
This isn’t uncommon, in fact it is one of the most common areas I work with. I see many people from all walks of life suffer with performance anxiety, in sport, business and life in general.
These include people who are young, old, very experienced, inexperienced, from amateur to professional sports men and women, presenters, actor and actresses, comedians, entrepreneurs, teachers, sales people, musicians, conductors, you name it I’ve seen people from all different walks of life who have suffered for performance anxiety.
Time and time again I hear clients say If my friends, family, or colleagues knew I had this problem, they wouldn’t believe me, because often they come across externally as being very confident, or they are able to hide the anxiety from those around them.
The main difference was Tamera was doing it in front of the TV cameras, under the scrutiny of the judges and millions of viewers, and the press. All wondering and waiting if she was going to forget her words again.
This was then compounded by the fact that everyone was talking about it, and focusing on the problem. This only served as constant reminder to her, making it difficult to focus on anything else.
When this happens it then starts to effect one’s self confidence, self esteem and self belief that they can actually do it!
I often use the analogy of the mind being like a Sat Nav/GPS system, it’s only as good as the programming you give it. In order to get to where you want to go, you have to tell it where you want to go, not where you don’t want to go.
Also the mind cannot process a negative without first thinking about it, for example if I said think of any part of your body but don’t think of your left foot, think of anything but you can’t think of your left foot… Where does your attention go… left foot?
Simply, we get more of what we focus on, what we think and talk about both in our own mind and out loud we tend to get more. So whether you think you can do something or you think you can’t either way your right, so it’s so important to focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want.
So in a situation like this, if you, or other people keep saying don’t forget your lyrics, you can’t forget your words this week, this doesn’t help break that belief, it just reinforces the very thing you’re trying so hard to break free of.
Is there anything you could say about yourself differently?
In the clip they showed me teaching Tamera a very simple but effective breathing technique, one I’ve evolved from yoga and martial arts. This is effective in managing anxiety as it’s one of the quickest and easiest ways of changing the way you’re thinking and feeling, it helps to get you out of your own thoughts and feel more relaxed, calmer and centered.
In essence when working with performance anxiety my aim is to help you stop thinking and focusing your attention on the problem, e.g. the outcome you don’t want. Then instead get you to focus on the outcome you DO want, with the complete unshakable self confidence in your own abilities.
And at the same time teach you some strategies and techniques so that you have the ability to stop over thinking, get out of your own head, and get in the right frame of mind, some call this the zone, the flow, the ideal performance state, grounded, centred. Whatever you call it, my aim is to help you to be able to get into that frame of mind when you want and not just leave it to chance and circumstance.
We do everything at its best when we don’t think about it, when we do it on auto pilot, simply it’s the state of mind that allows you to naturally and automatically be the best you can be with confidence.
Tamera went on to give two great performances and remembered all her lyrics, receiving wonderful feedback from the xfactor judges. Unfortunately 16 year old Tamera was voted off the ITV show after another wonderful performance in the sing off against Luke friend.
However the most important thing is she went out on a high and full of confidence and can be very proud of everything she has achieved so far. Tamera is a very talented and destined for great things. I’m sure she’ll have a fantastic future a head. I really would like to wish her all the best and I look forward to watching her continue to excel and grow in confidence in all that she does.
Here’s some lovely feedback from Tamera;
“I went to Christian for help, as most of you know I was going blank on the live shows and forgetting lyrics. After doing it once I was terrified it would happen again and it did! Christian helped me so much by putting me into deep meditation and showed me how to relax before going on stage. He helped with my confidence be imagining how I would like my performance to go. I was able to see Christian 4 times and hope we can carry on working together in the future”. Tamera Foster, X Factor Finalist 2013.
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X Factor Finalist 2013
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